When is change not necessary in your personal life?
May 23rd, 2009 | by Ridhima Suri |
Research suggests that not all personal change efforts are successful. There is a wealth of information available on how and why people could not make changes in their personal lives. Is it possible to change whenever the situation demands? How can you rationally judge all the changes that you may want to make? There are reasons why some people do not make certain changes in their personal lives. One often hears the following remarks:
- · I am happy with what I am doing!
- · This change is not a great idea!
- · I think this personal change is not a good idea for my family!
- · I do not want to be a ‘me-too’
- My research suggests that this is not the time to make changes!
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1. It is best to understand that people may not like a particular change because they know what is good for them. They are the best judge of the situation and no matter what others have to say they know what will work for them and what will not.
You should take control of what is good for you and should not be pressured by what others have to say.
2. A man is always very possessive about his family. If there is any institution in the society that he deeply cares about, it is his family. At times he is tempted to make changes in his personal life but he is convinced that the change is not in the overall interest of the family. Under such circumstances, it may not be necessary to change at all.
You must learn to assess what is the interest of your family before committing your time and money to a personal change.
3. Each year millions of people make New Year resolutions. They plan to get married, study further, change their habits, shift to a new job, buy a new home, marry their children, and pursue new hobbies. Each individual has his own set of needs and goals.
It is necessary for you to change if you think you need to change. There is no need to change just to be a ‘me –too’. In other words it is best to assess your own goals. If your friend has a Play Station or Audi S8 Sedan it is not necessary for you to buy one as well. You may have other priorities. Learn to single yourself out when you make your own change resolution.
4. There is no need to change without doing a thorough personal research. A few years back, the housing industry in the U.S. was booming. With sky-rocketing prices, easy availability of loans, and a surge in the demand for houses many people followed the trend and bought houses without proper research. Others, however, did not buy a house as their pockets could not accommodate a home loan. People were hooked to the internet and to their excel sheets for days trying to work out home loans, interest rates, and monthly installments. People who did not plunge, did their own research, and postponed the purchase are today much better off than people who followed others and bought houses they could not afford. This suggests that it is best to do your own research. If your research suggests that it is not a good idea to change you should not ignore it.
5. There are many instances when you need not change. Ask yourself the following questions: What do I desire from my personal life? What are my real abilities and what are the resources available to me for making such changes? Am I satisfied with myself? Make a mental note of how sure you are in some cases and how confused you are in other instances. If you are very sure that it is not the right time for you to make changes stick to that assumption. Remember that the path to self-exploration and satisfaction is by having the right assumptions. If your assumptions are correct you will arrive at the right conclusions.
Most discussions focus on how to change and how to deal with resistance to change. There are relatively few studies which focuse on when is it not a good idea to change and stick to the old way of doing things. As such personal diligence and research can ensure that you make changes which are good for you. Learn to single yourself out and know your own priorities rather than becoming another ‘Me-too’.
Tags: Change, Change management, Interesting, Management and Business
